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Magic Of Making Up Guide - Why The B-word Will Destroy Your Chances Of Winning Your Ex Back

May 23rd, 2008

When you get a chance to make up with your ex then the apology is either going to make or break you. Too many spurned lovers get this wrong and jeopardize their chances of a reconciliation.

A simple apology in normal circumstances – that is, following a simple tiff where you simply say “I’m sorry” will normally suffice. But when you’ve “been ejected from the ball game” and are trying to get back onto the ball park then it’s going to take a little more than I’m sorry.

The Importance Of A Sincere Apology

T W Jackson places a lot of importance on the apology factor in The Magic Of Making Up Tips. We’ll go as far as to say that apart from the initial reaction to being dumped, the apology is just about the most important part.

But you’re probably thinking an apology is just that – an apology and they’re all created equal. But that’s exactly the point we’re trying to get across in this article; they are not created equal.

Simply saying sorry is not enough and will get you booted even further away. A bad apology is showing a lack of respect. This rarely happens. A break up is a serious situation and should be treated as such. A vague apology on your part won’t cut it in most instances.

Really, it’s not what you say but how you say it. This is something you’ll learn how to execute in The Magic Of Making Up Tips. There is one word which you must not use…ever! We’ll reveal that in just a moment.

The key to an effective apology when making up with your ex is being a little humble. Forget about what has gone before this moment and unless you can do this, don’t even attempt it.

The Word You Should Never Use In An Apology To Your Ex

You see, the ego is such a powerful force and people are individuals. People don’t make mistakes - other people do. You were just a victim of circumstance. If you believe the above then you’ll believe “pigs really do fly!” Let’s face it, people never want to admit they’re wrong.

So you’re in the middle of your apology and you’ve got your ex mesmerized. She/he is just about to get back on the right side of that invisible line between love and hate and then it happens…”I’m sorry sweetheart. I can’t express it enough…but…

The “B” word…BUT…you said it. And in the blink of an eye you’ve just killed any chance of a reconciliation.

You’ve done all the right things in how to get your ex back. “I can’t apologize enough…I’m sorry but you’ve got to admit, you…”

See where this is going. When you include a BUT in your apology it’s not sincere. You may very well be sorry but you can’t help it and still want to make a point that it wasn’t all you’re fault.

Remember, you’re not in control here no matter how big your ego is - your ex is. It’s insincere and makes the apology look superficial. It’s one of the biggest killers and covered in The Magic Of Making Up Tips.

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