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Magic Of Making Up - How To Get Your Self Respect Back

August 21st, 2008

So you’ve just been dumped and you’re brooding over your ex and want them back desperately. This is not unusual behavior in a break up when one party is on the receiving end of a dumping.

Let’s play your conscious for a minute. Let’s go a little deeper and beyond the pain you’re feeling right now. This may not be what you want to hear but it needs to be said for you to be able to move forward.

Do you really want to go back to your ex or does it seem the only convenient thing to do?

Magic Of Making Up

Think about this for a moment because it’s a legitimate question and one which is examined in the Magic Of Making Up. It may very well be that you really feel that getting back with your ex is truly the right thing to do but why not examine some things before jumping back into the fire.

Because the truth is, too many spurned lovers try and rush back into their relationship after getting dumped and then find themselves in a similar situation a short time later.

Now if you’ve been dumped or even worse, dumped twice or more and find yourself wanting to go back, then you’ve really got to take some time out and look at your situation from a realist’s view.

Our question to you is why do you want to win your ex back? Think about it, apart from something you did that was pretty low, then look deep within yourself and see if you can locate that feeling called self pride.

T W Jackson covers this in the Magic Of Making Up and while the book is essentially a guide to help you win back your ex, it would have been incomplete without looking at an issue most spurned people never consider…do they really want to go back to their ex?

Your Relationship Under The Microscope

T W Jackson recommends looking at the positives and negatives of your relationship whether you’ve been spurned once, twice or how many times. If it’s the latter, then it may be time to head for the interchange bench!

Take time out and make a list of positives and negatives about your relationship and also your ex. Be very honest here and don’t make excuses.

The truth is, spurned once and there’s always a strong chance you can get back together. Spurned twice then there are definite issues with the relationship but not “unfixable.”

By listing the positives and negatives about your relationship will give you a good overview of how balanced your relationship is. It’s timely advice from the Magic Of Making Up.

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